Few life events can cause as much upheaval and pain as a relationship ending with someone you cared about. Whether you’re the breaker or the breakee, odds are you will feel a range of emotions for weeks or even months after a breakup.
Were you in denial … and got blindsided? Or did you see it coming for months… even years?

Whether it ends with a bang or a whimper, breaking up is a difficult time in life. It’s hard on your emotions, your once-comfortable way of life, and it’s really hard on your brain.
In fact, a study done by some Columbia neuroscientists points to the fact that going through a break up triggers the same regions of the brain that react to physical pain. Break ups aren’t just emotionally or logistically challenging – they literally put your brain in pain.

If you’re a guy, it can be especially hard to wrap your head – and heart – around a break up because even though it’s almost the second decade of the 21st century … men are still ingrained by culture that we’re to be strong and stoic and have control over our painful emotions. The result of that is not stronger men, but men afflicted with the effects of not intentionally feeling, accounting for, and dealing with, this type of emotional pain.

That takes a man of real emotional strength.
We can’t possibly write a guide that covers EVERY aspect of a break up. What we can do is hit the most important points to get you going on your path toward healing and normalcy based on our own experiences here at Primer.

And from that, first and foremost we can tell you: It’s going to be okay, bud.

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